Monday, October 19, 2009

Happy Fall Y'all

Well, turned chilly here! I actually had to turn on our heat for Saturday night, was going to the upper 40's lower 50's and I knew Tom would freeze to death.

I took a picture of him earlier last week, all bundled up like the abominable snowman on the back deck. So?? The problem with that pic was that I was walking out onto the same deck in shorts and short sleeves. That's what I mean when I say he would "freeze to death". The high's are low 70's and mid 60's.

Speaking of Tom, today is his 9 month sobriety anniversary! Wooo hooo! We are all so proud of him. Tomorrow is the court date for that accident that changed his ways. He may have to pull 2 days in jail (was told up to 7 and he's already served 5 when he was arrested) so he may be on a mini "vacation" this week. We'll see. It all depends on which Judge is sitting and if the State has the blood work back yet.

Isn't that sad? A simple blood test, analyze it and send the results....9 months later. Sigh. Our government at work.

So Miss T is working on her Solo for this year. It was going OK to begin with. This past Friday though the teacher was firm with her. She told Miss T that she didn't see her having any "fun" with it.....not "looking forward to" the practice sessions. She also said that T wasn't "improving" and should have been up to this point. Also said for her to make a decision to do this or not.

Now Momma, who knows the kids routine, is thinking that she is of the personality that she will learn the steps proficiently, before adding emotion. She has always been this way. Teacher, however, thinks she should be feeling it all at the same time. That's not easy for Miss T to do.....we talked about that in the beginning of this Solo and she said "that's ok, she's at the stage and age where that will be developing, don't worry it will come"....

But Friday my kid left in tears.

Ready to give up.

My heart was breaking for her - I could hear the conversation through the closed door. When the teacher came out she looked at me and said "I'm ready to get paid and leave - she needs to decided if she wants to do this solo or not."

I'd like to have another teacher look at it.......but do I dare overstep that boundary? Do I just write this off as "teacher was having a bad day" which often she does? Maybe as this week goes on, I'll get the answer to that question.

The other thing from Friday was her bus ride home....she had found out that one of her busmates had died that morning in the Outer Banks - drowned while surfing (his tether got tangled on a piece of a pier and it held him under). He was only 15 -- a Christian boy very involved and much loved. The bus was quiet, bus driver in tears. I know the emotions that were going on....I too experienced tragedy like that when I was just a year older than she is now, and another 3 my Senior year. It's not easy comprehending death at such young ages much less the "why" that goes along with it.

Last night was the visitation for this boy. I'm told some 400 students were there...and that many gave their lives over to Jesus. Today is his funeral, praying for comfort for the family and friends.


garnett109 said...

Congrats Tom!
Sorry for your loss Miss T

Beth said...

Maybe have a candid chat with the teacher? Shame on that teacher for not understanding that everyone learns in different ways.

So sorry for the loss of Miss T's classmate. Very sad.

Bucko (a.k.a., Ken) said...

Congrats to Tom, hope things go well tomorrow.

As for the teacher, perhaps she could spend more time to bring out the emotion.

Missie said...

Poor Miss T. I wish kids never had to deal with death. It's hard enough as an adult!

Have a good night.

Barb said...

Has she been with this teacher for a while? Maybe she knew about the boy's death & everyone was just not feeling it all the way around. Personally I'd wait a few lessons & see how the teacher reacts. I had a piano teacher who was pregnant & let me tell you I could tell when SHE wasn't feeling good. How terrible about the loss of such a young life. I hope they have a counselor on hand to talk to the kid if they want. Give Miss T a hug.
So proud of Tom's 90 days of sobriety. How are YOU doing??
Fall is here too. Our neighbors had a pumpkin carving party (bring your own pumpkins)LOL & a cold front blew in so they had to move it into the garage. I didn't go, but my son & his daughters did. They went all out-served a brisket dinner. Cookies for dessert. They had such fun.
Sorry I haven't been by in a while. If I get online, it's usually on FaceBook. Anyway have a wonderful Fall. Hugs, Barb *queenb