Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Court is Adjourned

(Sorry for the late post. I was writing this but time slipped up on me and I had to go get Miss T from school and transport her to dance.)

We were done by noon. The Atty had said (in the beginning) Tom would have to have this one. A lot of back door talking; then the Atty talked to me, asking what could I offer by way of Tom's changing, attitude etc. I said "He's done a complete 360 and is diligent" with his AA meetings etc. He asked if I would be willing to tell that to the Judge (which was a friend of a friend of mine). Of course.

Then I had to talk to the Cop......what? I felt like I was on trial lol.

Our turn, I had to stand with him, the Judge was not happy with Tom's DMV report at all esp since his last conviction in 2004. However, none of the other charges had convictions, so.....

I said what I had to say to the Judge. She wrote up her decision:

1 year no license; handed them over right then and there;
No paper license either (which means I'm back to the family taxi status)
24 months supervised probation
No alcohol or firearms in house (now I'm on probation lol - they're MY guns)
Comply with minimum 3 AA meetings per week.
$500 fine; $130 court cost
7 days jail....time served NOT counting (she said be glad I'm not giving you 60 days, you can thank your wife for that)

You could see it in her face she was NOT HAPPY!!!!

We met with a guy in the back to go over things. He gave Tom a number to call to set up his Probation appointment. We didn't have to pay anything on Tuesday, I guess that will be handled through probation like the last time (2004).

Tom was shut down for about 36 hours.....sad, but OK with the decision. He knew it was coming. By Thursday he had an outing with an AA buddy and they went around looking at boating and fishing stuff, then took in a noon AA meeting. It was a good day. It was good for him to hang out with this guy. He's 30 years sober!

Friday he was back to his aggravating normal self around the house.....he went with Miss T and me to her solo practice then out to eat.

He's trying to humor himself. Thank GOD cause I don't have the energy to do it for him!


Bucko (a.k.a., Ken) said...

He should be estatic with the results he got. He is lucky you were there to stand up for him. Glad you finally have this chapter behind you :o)

garnett109 said...

Today is 6 months for me

A Middle Aged Mom said...

He's so lucky! He's also very lucky to have you stand by himself and beleive in him.

Barb said...

Well, it could have been worse. I know a year without a license is going to be a major inconvenience. They don't make exceptions for driving to work? My Dad was a farmer & our farm was 28 miles out of town so he could drive to the farm. I'm proud of you for standing up for him. Hope things go smoothly. I guess we have to adjust to the hand we're dealt.
Thinking of you & yours & sending positive thoughts.
Hugs, Barb *queenb

Traci said...

I'm so excited to hear that Tom is nine months clean and sober. Givin' birth to some recovery as they say! Wonderful and wonderful court decision too! Some prayers were answered for sure!

Char said...

Sounds like things are going well. You are a rock, and he is so lucky to have you.

Martha (Menagerie) said...

It sure could have been worse for him. I'm sorry you have to suffer for it too but if you chose to stay with him it's all part of the bargain ::sigh:: I can only hope this time he'll stick with it and stop putting you and your family though the torture.