|"Alone By the Sea "©Sharon|
As always, Summer is going by so fast.
My photo above is serene....alone time by the sea can wash away troubles.
Seaside, so peaceful. I could not imagine living anywhere else.
A friend suggested I read "Co-Dependent No More" - I bought the book, but haven't started reading it yet. I did an online search about the same and found that I've been attempting the same things that are suggested by many therapists and self help groups. I attempt to go on with my life as normal as possible, not worrying about dear hubby at home, the "karma" he seems to be reaping now from the ill decisions of his past - even went on a mini vacation with out him, also a suggestion in the book. Take back your life - stop worrying about someone who obviously didn't give a damn about how you felt all those times.
Yet, when I've done that, I'm still the "bad guy" and I know that's not true, it's just his perception and the fact that he can't accept the situation he is now in. One year ago this week he was in the hospital near death. I guess after all these years, I've finally realized that it was not my place to worry about his choices. All that energy I spent "chasing" him, I should have placed towards my own life and Miss T..............
Hard to believe Miss T is beginning 10th grade, and almost 16!! Boys, yes, boys.....they all want to have a "relationship" status to "be somebody" or "fit in". I've tried to discourage that, just because #1 it always messes up friendships and #2 it is highly over-rated. One on one in the teen years isn't all it's cracked up to be -- a good group of great friends - now THAT is awesome and much more fun! Don't get me wrong, we all "need somebody to love" as Queen sings, and we're sure to have our share of heartaches from friends anyway....we have to learn about life somehow. I've tried to shelter Miss T from as much bad influence as possible and I think she has had a good overall experience. Dance has taught her not only the art, but discipline and respect. She has seen her fair share of drama in the dance studio trust me!
We have the official boyfriend status now, but I think he may be soon on the way out. They've been great friends this year and it's tough to say "don't ruin your friendship" just because. He was over recently, unexpected - he did call first since he was in the area - and I think she got a taste of how "manipulative" he could be. She'd say "don't do that" and of course........well, that doesn't sit well with her. No, it wasn't anything *ahem* it was a simple, request like "don't go in that room" but he'd be like "what's in there?". Anywho, I think that will be taken care of soon! Nip it, NIP IT!!
Next week begins the new dance year. So excited to be at a new studio!! Glad to have left the "mean girls" behind us and I'm not just talking about pre-teen and teenagers. Some of the policies of people...ego's and all about money - not about ability, just make sure you've paid your bill!
Our new studio just sent out a newsletter "welcoming" the new members. There was even a picture on it of Miss T and 4 friends from a "dance girls night out" to the movies. Awesome!! Also they plan "team building" adventures like a pool party, skating, water parks, lock-ins etc. They also have a very organized fund raising team. Next year we will be at 2 dance conventions, one in Charleston SC and one in Atlanta GA plus competing in 5 regional dance competitions. $$$$$$ Yep, this was a big step for us! The best part is that the owners/teachers really love what they are doing and they love the kids!
School......we have the schedule....it was what she wanted. It's going to be a great year!
The Theatre Arts teacher told her she was requesting she be placed in her production class for this year and YES it's there!! Drama in both semesters.....time to start preparing for the Halloween Haunted Barn and Hayride fundraiser! Wonder if the theme is still going to be "Asylum"? Tara has some crazy ideas for it.
Speaking of drama, one of her drama friends, "J", has been over a lot. He graduated last year and is the sweetest fellow. Great family! I get the feeling he needs to feel accepted and appreciated. I think we can work on that...first let's get him a JOB!! LOL he and Miss T actually had a "date" earlier this summer. I said it wasn't a "date" but they said "yes it was" - it was a bet between them. I'm not sure if there was a winner....anyway, they're cool friends....he's like a big brother. It will do her good to have a big brother.
Why am I rambling??? I gotta get to bed! Road trip tomorrow to Raleigh!